sugarbabies…
i took umbrage when i came across an article …that suggested that women today should not try to cultivate a sex kitten image…maybe it was this line…
Today, more than ever, women are having an outrageously difficult time trying to figure out what it is we want and who we want to be. There’s nothing wrong with seeking professional independence and success or living in the fairy-tale house with the white-picket fence. Yet there’s still this little voice from some Cosmopolitan article that says any real woman can do all that because she has this amazing sexual presence.
well first….really??? “today, more than ever, outrageously difficult”… are we talking about the same generation that feels soo entitled that last month the receptionist didnt feel she should have to answer the phone?? Interns that tell their bosses what days they will work? that generation? cause… yeah..no… im not buying it…id say that is a cop out..and that while there is still a ways to go…that GREAT strides have been made..and that those strides include the choice to exercise our inner sex kitten… but maybe it IS time for a more modern definition of a “sex kitten”…
photo via: Tom Ford Eyewear
for me …it has always been a woman who doesnt have to repress her sexuality to be considered equal… quite the opposite… someone who is smart enough to recognize and even revel in the differences between men and women… and who can be BOTH professional and sexual… you know…like men …now im not trying to unduly criticize the author…shes a college kid… and wow im glad most of the crap i wrote in the college paper isn’t plastered all over the net for silly google searches to provoke comment from random sex kittens …. i see where she was going..(i think) but… i think ….she is missing the point…and that helen gurly brown would agree … that the little voice from cosmo isnt saying she can do all that because she has an amazing sexual presence….its say you can do all that AND have an amazing sexual presence….
xoxo
6 comments
May 23, 2011 at 9:22 pm
magnolia
what really, truly grinds my gears is when people tell me that there’s a “right” way to advance the cause of women. wrong on two levels.
a) assuming that women are monolithic is sexist, no matter how enlightened you claim to be.
b) if i can’t dance, i don’t want to be part of your revolution. sex is joy, and life is nothing without joy.
so screw ‘em if they want to limit me. to me, they’re just as bad as the “fundamentalist” religious folks who denounce me.
May 24, 2011 at 8:18 pm
City Girl
Here, here! I imagine that the writer will gain wisdom with age. Loved your last two posts! xoxo
May 24, 2011 at 9:23 pm
zeus
Sometimes when we listen to others we end up unhappy. As long as you respect yourself and others, then you shouldn’t let others dictate your happiness or decisions.
May 25, 2011 at 9:42 am
NovaBurbsMan
I’ve always thought you do a damned good job of being the female Don Draper. Sexy as Hell, and smarter than the rest of the world. Keep it up kiddo.
May 26, 2011 at 11:37 pm
yknot
You’re doing it Right! AND Keeping it Sexy! what’s the Problem with that?
May 26, 2011 at 11:38 pm
yknot
Alice included!